Choosing your Bridesmaids

  That wedding in April

Choosing your bridesmaids can be a real challenge for the bride.  Some people love the idea of being your bridesmaid.  For others, though they will not want to let you down, it will be an ordeal.  We can get very caught up in not wanting to offend friends and family.  What really matters at the end of the day, is not who other people think you should invite, nor that Aunt Jane might be affronted,  if you don’t choose her youngest daughter. 

Although, you should, of course, always listen to your mother, you need to think about the people who mean most to you in your life.  Then have a quiet word with them.  Tell them about your plans for the wedding.  Be sensitive to how they are feeling about the opportunity.  If it is clear they would prefer not to take on the role, then do the gentle and kind thing and let them off the hook.  But make clear that you are not offended and that you still want them to come and take part in your wedding – include them in some other part of your preparations. 

One further thought,  include your sisters as a priority.   Unless they really don’t want to do it, leaving them out is likely to be something you will regret for a very long time.

Have a care when you choose dresses for your bridesmaids and remember to choose colours and styles that will suit all of you.  You want your bridesmaid to be happy on the day and there is nothing worse than having to spend all day as one of the centres of attention in a dress that is totally the wrong colour and wrong the style.  This might mean that you have compromise a little but it will be worth it to have happy smiles on your bridesmaids’ faces.


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