That wedding in April Choosing your bridesmaids can be a real challenge for the bride. Some people love the idea of being your bridesmaid. For others, though they will not want to let you down, it will be an ordeal. We can get very caught up in not wanting to offend friends and family. What really matters at the end of the day, is not who other people think you should invite, nor that Aunt Jane might be affronted, if you don’t choose her youngest daughter. Although, you should, of course, always listen to your mother, you need to think about the people who mean most to you in your life. Then have a quiet word with them. Tell them about your plans for the wedding. Be sensitive to how they are feeling about the opportunity. If it is clear they would prefer not to take on the role, then do the gentle and kind thing and let them off the hook. But make clear that you are not offended and that you still want them t...